What is Wrong with Being Single Anyways?

Yesterday as I was getting ready for work I was listening to the local Christain radio station and the announcers were interviewing Candace Walters, author of Get Married: What Women Can Do to Help it Happen and I was flabbergasted at what I was hearing.



This woman wrote a "how to" book for how christain "single" women can solve all their problems and get married. Now granted I am being a bit sarcastic, but the way this women and the radio d.j.'s were talking about single christain women was like they had the plague and there was something obviously wrong with them because why else would they not be married?





I mean one line the d.j. specifically said, "If any of you listeners out there know someone who is single this is the perfect gift for them," I wanted to say, WHAT! I felt like he was saying, "If anyone out there knows someone who has three arms and a purple nose and looks like an elephant and you feel sorry for them you should buy them this book so it will fix their life,"

I almost wrote an email to the radio and this author, speaking on behalf of a single Christain women that yes I want to be married but I am also not putting my life on hold just because I am not married. I have felt recently not just from this certain radio spot, but also others in my life and especially the Christain community that I am not fully whole unless I am married. I feel as though I have been made to feel that I as a single women can not offer all that a married couple can.

I just want to scream sometimes stop treating me like I have a handicap!

So I guess this is my venting session. But seriously people speaking as a single woman, I am not going to marry just anyone. I have standards that are set by God. I want to marry my best friend. The man that was created to compliment me and all my craziness. That however does not mean I am holding my breath until I meet the right one. I am living a full and happy life. I am loving people and having fun. I am doing things that if I were married I would not be able to do.

But in the meantime treat single people just like everyone else. ;o)

Thoughts

My small group is to a point where we are getting to large to meet in one person's home. Which is great and praise the Lord that that many people are interested and involved in community.

The leaders have asked me to step up and be a co-leader of one of the small groups once we split. My natural thought was of course I have always been a leader in my life. I have led plenty of bible studies before this should not be any different.

But I was speaking with a friend this week about leading and being in a community and how one deals with people and conflict. I am not saying that there is conflict I am just saying that "Christain community" is not perfect because we as humans are imperfect.

That is why living in true community is hard, it requires honesty, humility, transperancy, and things we as humans have a hard time doing. Now I admit there is a part of me that is comfortable with not splitting because I have already formed relationships with the people in my small group and I like them. But being a Christain is not about being comfortable. It is about loving people in the midst of hard times and spreading God's love. So even though we are splitting I am praying that God will use me and teach me how to be a better servant to love His people. I want to be a humble leader. I also do not want to over commit myself to a million in a half groups which is what I have tended to do in the past :o)

But this new phase will be good. I am excited to see what God has around the corner.

p.s. I have new posts down a little ways that you should look at.

Fun Girls Night

These videos are from a fun girls night we had with my bible study girls. We were playing the game "girl talk" and these dares were a few of my favs, Allison had to sing the song "RESPECT" and Jennifer had to push a quarter across the room with her nose. Enjoy!

P.s. Neither one of them knew I was taking videos of them ;o)

Congrats Jennifer

These pictures are from last week when a whole bunch of us got together to celebrate Jennifer getting a job! We surprised her and it was great!

Congrats again Jennifer I am so proud of you!

My Morning View

“Come now, let’s settle this,”says the Lord.“Though your sins
are like scarlet,I will make them as white as snow.Though they are red like
crimson,I will make them as white as wool.

-Isaiah 1:18

This is my view in the morning when I walk out of my apartment. Aren't I lucky? I was talking with jen about how neither of us appreciate the cold weather, however when it is cold and you walk outside and see the mountains it just automatically puts you in a good mood. I don't know how anyone here in Colorado can not fall to their knees in appreciation of how amazing God's creation is. I know I do.

January

Hi!!!!

I have so much to update on because I have not posted in a long time. This phase in my life has been a lot of transition and making life decisions . . which is hard. I was contemplating moving back home to pursue my masters and be around my family while my sister is PREGNANT!!! Yes for those of you who don't know my little sister is pregnant and due August 14th, let's hope it is a little early so the baby and I can share the same bday!

But alas that is not happening due to financial reasons. So I am going to go to grad school for my masters in social work here in Colorado starting next year in May up in Ft. Collins. So also I am moving to the south end of town, which requires packing up all my stuff. That also has not been fun. The apartment I live in now Rachel and I each have our own bathroom and the new one has only one so that will be a transition. I am also being nice and letting rachel have the bigger bedroom. Man I am so nice :o) Just kidding. So that is all happening.

Other than that things are going good. I am still involved in my small groups and things are going soo well with that. I love the group and being part of a community again. It is nice to have that.

This weekend was spent drinking wine with the girls from small group and playing girl talk awesome!, babysitting sweet Issybella on Saturday night, hanging out at Mike and Cathy's for a football party on Sunday night (too bad the packers lost), and yesterday packing. All in all a good weekend!

This morning I woke up and the moutains were amazing. The air was so cold it was like it was crystalized and the air was catching the sun and it was this pink hue. Amazing!!! Even though it was only 1 degree out when I got into my car.

Miss you all. How are you doing today? Really?

stresses

This week has been stressful. Trying to make big decisions about my future is hard. So I am also trying to figure out my finances and going back to school and setting up a budget and I came to a sad realization. . . i don't make a lot of money. :o(

Yeah i know this should have been a realization before and it has been but my goodness, it has hit me more this week. I have tried to sit down with rachel and her brother has so graciously to help me out...putting it all down on a list. Not fun.

But a fun note yesterday while I was in my car and saw a homeless man and he was playing the drums...however he was not listening to any music and he was playing drums that did not exist. However he seemed like he knew what he was doing. That made me smile.